What is keeping you from achieving your dreams? Could it be you?
This question might sting a little, but let’s get to the bottom of it so we can release it and allow healing to fill that space inside.
According to neuroscience, your main belief systems about yourself and the world are formed by the time you are seven years old. These beliefs were modeled for you and unconsciously programmed into your subconscious by your primary caregivers:
- How the world is viewed (as good or bad)
- How your authentic self was nurtured
- How you value your own worth
- Whether you were taught to feel and express your true emotions
- If you were loved unconditionally
These programs have been running your life ever since. If you struggle to finish things, feel shy speaking in groups, or being seen at all, or if you don’t feel successful, accomplished, or even loved (to name just a few common issues), it’s essential to dig these feelings up, release them, and heal.
You don’t have to be ruled or limited by your subconscious beliefs or habitual negative thinking. However, you need to identify and address these beliefs, let them go, and replace them if you want your life to change.
It all comes down to this: What you see in your outer world is a direct reflection of what you believe inside. When you believe in yourself, you experience real success. And when you don’t, you have inner work to do.
Messages You Heard as a Child
This is not about blaming your parents or forgiving them; we need to move past that. This is about awareness and taking responsibility for the condition of your life. If you are an adult, it is your job to identify what is stopping you from living your best life. You must do the inner work to start living the life you want. Let your parents off the hook; they did the best they could with the tools they had.
Did you hear any messages as a child that still hurt you today? For example, perhaps the intent was to correct your behavior, but it was delivered in a damaging way. Many in my generation heard phrases like “you should be ashamed of yourself.” This was a common phrase used by parents in those days.
Well, guess what? I was so ashamed of myself for decades that I held myself back from achieving anything extraordinary. I had to work through those subconscious beliefs, release that negativity, and affirm to myself that:
- I am worthy of achieving my dreams.
- I am deserving of all the good that comes into my life.
- I deserve to surround myself with positive and supportive people.
- I am worthy of happiness and fulfillment in every area of my life.
- I am enough just as I am.
- I am valuable and have a unique contribution to make.
Please share your best affirmations in the comments below. The affirmations above are from my favorite YouTube meditation channel, Rising Higher Meditation. I encourage you to check out the overnight meditations offered there; they are powerful—just like you.
